I shared a post on Facebook, to this article:
(~13 WHAM News Rochester, NY)
In a moment of sarcasm I wrote the post as “Man, oh man. That sounds about white.”
Someone on my facebook friends list (who will remain nameless in this post) commented the following: “Why bring race into this? You are white btw.”
I wanted to respond to that, but thought it merited more than a facebook comment. My post was a sarcastic commentary not just on the race of the individual, but the gender.
I bring them both up, because they are part of “this”. Justice in this country, is not delivered consistently. White men often get more lenient sentences than men of color.
In cases of rape and sexual assault, the man usually gets the benefit of the doubt, and their future is often of more concern, than the justice or welfare of the woman.
It’s such a prevalent issue, for so many women, someone started a post a while back about all the things they would do, if they could walk around with the freedom that men do. It went viral with women posting all the things that they would do, if they didn’t have to worry about being attacked by a man. At the same time men were reeling from all the #MeToo allegations and there was this collective outrage of how hard it is for guys to know how to hit on women etc.
The reality is that men are often aggressive and entitled, when it comes to women. No, not all men. We are sure that you, reading this, are an angel. But many are. We are talking about a majority of the population. This really ends up being received by women as ridiculous, considering all the advice we get, to prevent being attacked or raped. Don’t stay out late, carry pepper spray, wear a ring on your left finger, wear modest clothing, never leave a drink unattended, don’t drink too much.
Men aren’t told to do any of this. Just women. The ring on the finger really gets to me. You have to pretend to be “owned” by a man, to prevent a man from feeling entitled to your time or your body.
Well, all of that online conversing, resulted in this fantastic ode, to what a scary time it is for guys, who don’t know how to relate to women, in comparison to what women go through.
To summarize this post…
Why bring up race? Because if that man had been a black man, he more than likely never would have been given home incarceration. He would have been put in jail with an exorbitant bail set, or no bail.
Why bring up gender? Because men have privilege and entitlement in our society, that women just do not get.
I highly recommend watching the documentary 13th (on Netflix), to learn about how racist our justice system is. Knowing the history, is important to improving things now and in the future.
Just to end this on a note of levity, I wanted to share this clip, in reference to the comment “you are white btw”, like I don’t know that. I’ll leave it to the genius of Richard Pryor:
- Do my parents know???? 😂 Do I have to change my name to Becky? Dammit.
- According to white supremacists, since I’m Jewish, I’m not “really” white.
- My whiteness means I have undue privilege, and I choose to use that to highlight this stuff. I don’t want more than what others have. I want my friends of color to get the same treatment I get, in our justice system.A good example of this just popped up recently. A woman of color called 911, for help. When the police got there, they ended up forcing her to the ground and arresting her. We all know that if I had called, that never would have happened to me. Florida Cop Relieved of Duty After Video Emerges of Police Violently Arresting Black Woman Who Called for Help (~ The Root)
- White supremacy is crap. We are not superior. I don’t want race superiority. I want equality and equity, across race and gender.
- Being white doesn’t mean I shouldn’t criticize white people getting better treatment in our judicial system. It means I should. That’s called being an ally.
Thank you, for your time.